So my wonderful children had an extremely had night last night. So what does that mean for this temporary single mom??? You got it no sleep for me. I could be angry about it or I could figure out ways to avoid this for when we get down to Mesa. First I am pretty sure my two year old is cutting his molars, as all he wanted was to be held all night he had no fever or anything and he kept clawing at his face so yeah that is what I am thinking. I don't use teething tablets because most of them have way to much caffeine in them for my liking so what can I do??? *****Thinking***** I used to use Baby Orajel but it is not recommended especially if you are not going to be able to stay up and monitor the child. As there is a drug in it called benzocaine that can cause a condition called methemoglobinemia, a disorder in which the amount of oxygen carried through the blood stream is greatly reduced. For moms who want to look up the facts and see if this opt out is right for you here is the website I found this information on http://www.fda.gov/ForConsumers/ConsumerUpdates/ucm306062.htm Yeah I was a little scared to hear about this. Chilling, right how many times have moms and dads used Baby Orajel to help a baby get a little sleep.
I will be looking into safe alternatives so Sammy and I can both get a good nights sleep. As Johnny is just getting to this "memorable" stage in development I will definitely need something...
I have found many daytime remedies but my boy doesn't seem to have a problem during the day as we stay so busy playing games and running around he doesn't usually notice it. I will have to look into this and I will get back to you on what my findings are.
My Second issue was every time Sammy screamed or cried a little too loud Johnny would wake up and want to be held and need to "eat" even if he wasn't really hungry he need the comfort of mommy so I do not have very long arms and as the fact my boys are not twins I never worked on the football hold breast feeding position and both mine prefer being sprawled out across in a cradle hold. I really wished I had at least gone over that with a lactation expert.... So I had my 35+ pound "baby" leaning on one shoulder sniffling little sobs with his 4 month old baby brother trying to eat in my other arm and he had is cradle hold around Sam. I am sure if my husband had seen it he would have laughed and then taken my oldest but alas he is a thousand miles away so no such luck. I finally got both boys to sleep and was able to put down my 4 month old and snuggle with my 2 year old until he was able to push off me and want his own space. (He loves to snuggle but he really loves to go to sleep snuggling and be put down shortly there after because he is a wiggler and needs his space.) This joyous moment happened about 6 AM I laid back down in my bed about 6:10 about 6:15 my 4 month old decided he wanted breakfast and then he wanted to play.
This has been one of those moments where you wonder. How do people do this?? Why am I not cut out for this??? I try what am I doing wrong??
So to the first question people do it about the same way I did or the same way you might do it there is rarely a right way to do anything with parenting just remember there are WRONG ways shaking your baby is not the answer if you fill this urge either get your spouse have them take the child for a little bit or put your baby back in their crib shut the door and put some head phones on just for a little bit to escape the screaming after reflection and a decent night sleep you will see clearly going without sleep for too long is extremely dangerous not just for you but for your children also. Don't worry you can get through it the fact that you are read things, trying to find answers means you are an amazing parent.
The second question Why am I not cut out for this??? Remember that you are usually seeing everyone else at there best. You are seeing the story book version not all the hard work, the out takes and rough cuts that people had to go through to get those few minutes or hours of peace. You are cut out for this.. Your child loves you very much and you are helping them become a better person. This is what everything else in life has prepared you for.
If you are actually trying you aren't doing anything wrong keep going you can make it!!! Being a parent is the hardest job there are no vacations no paid holidays you are on the clock 24/7 everyday of the year you don't even get lunch breaks at times : D I can't tell you how many times I have gotten up to make myself food and 2 hours later still haven't eaten because of diapers needing changing baby needing to be fed. It can drive you crazy but here is a song that helps me get through moments like that http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=at_lUnFjXg8 the song is called It Won't Be Like This For Long by Darius Rucker.
We can all get through this together and when they are older we can tell their boyfriends/ girlfriends, husband/wife what terrors they were as children my mom has so many stories about me and my siblings they are funny and really help me know getting through moments like this. I wish you luck and don't forget we have friends to help us as well as family you are not in it alone. It does take a village to raise a child so good luck.
I am all over the place with this but I am sleep deprived right now and its taken like4 hours to write this : D the joys of parenting are calling..
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